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How to Make Friends With a Ghost In Your Haunted House

Jeannie is a huge fan of Halloween and loves everything that is ghoulish. You can often find her reading or writing horror stories.

Friendly Ghosts?

So you've moved into a different home and you keep hearing things that go bump in the night. You've heard voices, you are seeing dark shadows in the light of day, and that pesky TV keeps turning on and off on its own. My friend, you may just have a ghost!

I realize the first thing you may want to do in this situation is completely panic. That is a normal reaction. Maybe you don't like having a roommate, and surely you never imagined you'd be stuck with a ghost roommate that isn't even helping pay the rent. However, it doesn't have to be all bad. With a little time and acceptance, you and your new ghost roommate could be the best of friends!

Not all ghosts are bad. Some are actually quite friendly. Remember Casper the Friendly Ghost? You see, he was pretty cool. So why not learn a little more about your new friend and try to become buddies? I have some helpful suggestions below.

Don't Renovate Too Much

Have you seen the movie "Beetlejuice"? Well, surely you understand why the ghost couple in the movie was so upset to see their beloved home being totally renovated by city dwelling artsy-fartsy types. They had absolutely nothing in common with the new owners and they hated to see their house so drastically changed.

My recommendation to you would be to try to find a home you already like. Don't buy a house if you plan on totally renovating it. If you must renovate your home, make small changes so you don't upset the ghosts too much. Ghosts really get sensitive about changes in their environment.

Have a Chat with the Ghost

Too many people are combative right off the bat with their ghosts. They walk into a different home, and start yelling at the ghost when they notice spiritual activity occurring. Well, guess what? That ghost was there before you. Chances are, that ghost will be there after you. If you happen to die in the house, you might just be haunting that place with the current ghost. So you'd better chill out and try to be buddies right now.

Of course, if you happen to live in a house for a while without experiencing any type of haunting activity, but suddenly it starts, you are dealing with a lost soul. That is not cool since you were minding your own business and this ghost just shows up unannounced. All bets are off in this situation. That new ghost is clearly a jerk. You might want to hire an exorcist.

If you do decide to befriend the new ghost or you are dealing with an old haunting, I recommend (in a fairly conversational tone) start saying things like, "What is your name?" or "How long have you lived here?" or "Please stop flushing my toilet when I am in the other room." You see, when you have a nice, calm open conversation with a ghost, things go a lot better... unless, of course, you have a demon in your home. I don't mess with demons. I would also suggest getting an exorcist in this situation... and fast.

Did you know ghosts enjoy ghost candy gifts?

Did you know ghosts enjoy ghost candy gifts?


Everyone likes receiving gifts, including the dead. Your ghost may leave subtle hints about what he or she likes.

For instance, perhaps your ghost smells like roses when she enters a room. Well, give that gal some roses! Leave some fresh flowers in a room the ghost likes to visit. Maybe your ghost enjoys hiding your keys. Well, give the ghost his own set of keys. He might like to pretend he is driving a car each day.

It must be boring being a ghost sometimes! Imagine you are confined to a house all the time. It helps to give the ghost a gift to keep him or her entertained.

Don't Tease the Ghost

Always remember it is never a good idea to provoke a ghost. Even the nicest ghost can get a little mean if you are always yelling obscenities or threatening to call an exorcist all the time.

Have you seen the show "Ghost Adventures" with the guys that yell at ghosts all the time? Yeah, don't do that. Your ghost is never going to like you if you do that. Those guys don't have to live with these ghosts, so they are not worried about the ghosts' feelings. If you ever want to have a ghost buddy, you'd better not do that.

Subtle Hints

Sometimes your ghost is trying to tell you something. Make sure to attempt to figure out what your ghost means by different gestures.

  • Is your ghost constantly unplugging your appliances? Maybe there is faulty wiring and the ghost is trying to save your life.
  • Does your ghost constantly open windows? Perhaps your home is getting too hot during the day and the ghost is concerned about your pets' health.
  • Are the channels on your TV constantly changing even though you are not touching the remote control? Maybe the ghost thinks you have bad taste in TV programming and he is only trying to help you explore other options.

Don't just jump to conclusions and believe you have a menace. Your ghost must be trying to advise you in ways you never imagined. Your ghost might really like you and the ghost is actually doing you a favor.


When It Is Time to Let Go

I understand that having a ghostly roommate might not be something you'd enjoy. If you've tried everything to befriend the ghost, but that seems impossible, it might be time to let the ghost go. You can try saying things like, "Go into the light," or "This house is mine now; you must leave." If that does not work, you can even contact a group of paranormal investigators or a priest to help you out.

I would, however, NOT recommend using a Ouija board, tarot cards, or a séance in your haunted home unless you actually know what you are doing. I am not going to be responsible for a ghost knocking you down a flight of stairs or a demon possession. If you believe your ghost is evil, well then it just might be! You've seen that movie, "Paranormal Activity," haven't you? Don't mess with evil!

Ghosts Really Like This Song...

© 2013 Jeannie Marie


Jeannie Marie (author) from Baltimore, MD on June 06, 2019:

That sounds super creepy. At least it wasn't a mean spirit though.

Written4Disasters on May 25, 2019:

I know I am like really really late on this... but I have a dark closet and one time when I was trying to sleep with my little siblings (Like they are very little) My closet door just opened to about a ninety degree angle and just closed instantly, it was too fast to be wind and it was more human like

Jeannie Marie (author) from Baltimore, MD on January 22, 2018:

Hey, it never hurts to have Rocky Road ice cream in your house. Even if they ghost doesn't eat it, you've got Rocky Road ice cream and that's a good thing. You may want to hold off getting a hamster plush though... unless you want one, of course.

Sans of font on January 03, 2018:

My house isn't haunted and me and my sister did a ouija board and there are 7 ghosts in my house,they said that some of them are bad too and one gave us his age and birthday,it was really cool..but one mentioned that his favoutite ice cream was Rocky road.do I get him ice cream?they said they can't hold physical objects,i want to be friends with all of them but how??? Also they like to giggle and they said they like my hamster.

Should i get him a hamster plush

Jeannie Marie (author) from Baltimore, MD on September 12, 2015:

Thank you, Sweetie Pie.

SweetiePie from Southern California, USA on September 10, 2015:

This was a fun read.

Jeannie Marie (author) from Baltimore, MD on March 11, 2014:

Thanks so much. I am glad you liked it.

Suzanne Sheffield from Mid-Atlantic on March 11, 2014:

Another terrific Hub! Thumbs up!

Jeannie Marie (author) from Baltimore, MD on November 01, 2013:

I am happy to help. I just want to help people become friends with their new ghost roommate. It is such a pity when roommates fight. ;-)

drbj and sherry from south Florida on November 01, 2013:

I always knew that something important was lacking in my life, Jeannie, and now thanks to you, I know what it is. How to treat a ghost (should I ever encounter one) and have him or her or it leave without ill feelings or behavior. Thank you, m'dear, for this important information and the laughs.

Jeannie Marie (author) from Baltimore, MD on November 01, 2013:

billybuc - I am happy you enjoyed the hub. Sometimes I have the weirdest ideas. :-) Thank you!

sheilamyers - I think there are many different types of ghosts, and in some cases, what we think are ghosts are not really spirits at all. Sometimes I think a particular memory plays over and over again like a recording, but it is not actually a spirit. Other times, there are spirits of people that were once alive. What scares me is hearing about other entities that were never alive to begin with... I am not chatting with them! ;-) Thanks for your comment!

sheilamyers on October 29, 2013:

I do believe in "ghosts" but have a very different opinion about what they really are. Because of that belief, I'd never try to make friends with such an entity or decide not to do whatever I choose in my own house. Short and to the point, if a "ghost" moves in or is already there it's getting kicked out on its ectoplasmic rear-end.

Bill Holland from Olympia, WA on October 29, 2013:

You really do have a very strange sense of humor, Jeannie! LOL I would have never thought of this subject in a million years. You had me laughing right out of the gate and all the way through. Well done and thank you for the belly laugh this morning.

Jeannie Marie (author) from Baltimore, MD on October 29, 2013:

Kim, thanks so much. I am happy you enjoyed my hub. I figured people should be nicer to ghosts... they are just people, too!

bravewarrior, that is so interesting. The little boy ghost sounds really pleasant. I would not have been happy to see a bloody lady in a closet either. No wonder some children are scared of the closet monster! I've had rather positive experiences with ghosts in life, so I thought it would be OK to write this hub. :-) That attic sound you were hearing sounds pretty scary. I hope that does not come back. Thanks so much for sharing your experiences!

Shauna L Bowling from Central Florida on October 29, 2013:

I actually had ghosts in my house when I was married to my ex-husband. He has some wicked ghosts that follow him wherever he goes. There was also a sweet one that I saw frequently. He was a little boy of about 5. I think he may have been my ex's little brother that his mom lost when he was an infant. Once I divorced my husband, I've not seen any more ghosts, nor has my son. He used to see a bloody lady in his closet when I was married to my ex. (That would have scared the daylights out of me!)

The other day I thought perhaps one of Rex's ghosts had come back - or maybe it's a new one (perhaps my son's dad?). I was sitting in my office and I suddenly heard what sounded like an air compressor going off in the attic. It ran the entire length of the house, then stopped. It sounded off once more a minute or two later but only for a short while. I KNOW it was coming from the attic (I live in a one story house, so it was right above my head), I just don't know why. I haven't heard it since. Oh - it was in the middle of the afternoon when this occurred. No one has died in my house so I have no idea who it was or if he's still here.

ocfireflies from North Carolina on October 29, 2013:

Hilarious. Totally enjoyed and voted likewise. Thank You for providing work that is funny and lighthearted when there is so much darkness of the not so Casper kind lurking in the shadows. : )


Jeannie Marie (author) from Baltimore, MD on October 29, 2013:

Kathryn, thanks so much for the votes and for sharing. Happy Halloween to you, too!

FlourishAnyway, to be really honest with you, I lived in a dorm room once I believed to be haunted, and my appliances were always unplugging themselves... even with me in the room! I later figured out the wiring was actually faulty and stopped using those plugs. Nothing was ever unplugged again... although other stuff moved around and there were weird phone calls, but still... maybe ghosts can help! :-) Thanks for your comment!

FlourishAnyway from USA on October 29, 2013:

How positive of you to imagine that the ghost may be trying to save your life by unplugging appliances (or at least trying to save you money on your electric bill)! I bet your tips make you a perfect ghost host(ess).

Kathryn from Windsor, Connecticut on October 28, 2013:

This is so funny! Voted up and across, and sharing :)

Thanks for making me laugh, and have a great night. Don't let the ghosts fright you. Happy (early) Halloween!

~ Kathryn

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