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How to Make Friends With a Ghost In Your Haunted House

Jeannie is a huge fan of Halloween and loves everything that is ghoulish. You can often find her reading or writing horror stories.

Friendly Ghosts?

So you've moved into a different home and you keep hearing things that go bump in the night. You've heard voices, you are seeing dark shadows in the light of day, and that pesky TV keeps turning on and off on its own. My friend, you may just have a ghost!

I realize the first thing you may want to do in this situation is completely panic. That is a normal reaction. Maybe you don't like having a roommate, and surely you never imagined you'd be stuck with a ghost roommate that isn't even helping pay the rent. However, it doesn't have to be all bad. With a little time and acceptance, you and your new ghost roommate could be the best of friends!

Not all ghosts are bad. Some are actually quite friendly. Remember Casper the Friendly Ghost? You see, he was pretty cool. So why not learn a little more about your new friend and try to become buddies? I have some helpful suggestions below.

Don't Renovate Too Much

Have you seen the movie "Beetlejuice"? Well, surely you understand why the ghost couple in the movie was so upset to see their beloved home being totally renovated by city dwelling artsy-fartsy types. They had absolutely nothing in common with the new owners and they hated to see their house so drastically changed.

My recommendation to you would be to try to find a home you already like. Don't buy a house if you plan on totally renovating it. If you must renovate your home, make small changes so you don't upset the ghosts too much. Ghosts really get sensitive about changes in their environment.

Have a Chat with the Ghost

Too many people are combative right off the bat with their ghosts. They walk into a different home, and start yelling at the ghost when they notice spiritual activity occurring. Well, guess what? That ghost was there before you. Chances are, that ghost will be there after you. If you happen to die in the house, you might just be haunting that place with the current ghost. So you'd better chill out and try to be buddies right now.

Of course, if you happen to live in a house for a while without experiencing any type of haunting activity, but suddenly it starts, you are dealing with a lost soul. That is not cool since you were minding your own business and this ghost just shows up unannounced. All bets are off in this situation. That new ghost is clearly a jerk. You might want to hire an exorcist.

If you do decide to befriend the new ghost or you are dealing with an old haunting, I recommend (in a fairly conversational tone) start saying things like, "What is your name?" or "How long have you lived here?" or "Please stop flushing my toilet when I am in the other room." You see, when you have a nice, calm open conversation with a ghost, things go a lot better... unless, of course, you have a demon in your home. I don't mess with demons. I would also suggest getting an exorcist in this situation... and fast.

Did you know ghosts enjoy ghost candy gifts?

Did you know ghosts enjoy ghost candy gifts?


Everyone likes receiving gifts, including the dead. Your ghost may leave subtle hints about what he or she likes.

For instance, perhaps your ghost smells like roses when she enters a room. Well, give that gal some roses! Leave some fresh flowers in a room the ghost likes to visit. Maybe your ghost enjoys hiding your keys. Well, give the ghost his own set of keys. He might like to pretend he is driving a car each day.

It must be boring being a ghost sometimes! Imagine you are confined to a house all the time. It helps to give the ghost a gift to keep him or her entertained.

Don't Tease the Ghost

Always remember it is never a good idea to provoke a ghost. Even the nicest ghost can get a little mean if you are always yelling obscenities or threatening to call an exorcist all the time.

Have you seen the show "Ghost Adventures" with the guys that yell at ghosts all the time? Yeah, don't do that. Your ghost is never going to like you if you do that. Those guys don't have to live with these ghosts, so they are not worried about the ghosts' feelings. If you ever want to have a ghost buddy, you'd better not do that.

Subtle Hints

Sometimes your ghost is trying to tell you something. Make sure to attempt to figure out what your ghost means by different gestures.

  • Is your ghost constantly unplugging your appliances? Maybe there is faulty wiring and the ghost is trying to save your life.
  • Does your ghost constantly open windows? Perhaps your home is getting too hot during the day and the ghost is concerned about your pets' health.
  • Are the channels on your TV constantly changing even though you are not touching the remote control? Maybe the ghost thinks you have bad taste in TV programming and he is only trying to help you explore other options.

Don't just jump to conclusions and believe you have a menace. Your ghost must be trying to advise you in ways you never imagined. Your ghost might really like you and the ghost is actually doing you a favor.


When It Is Time to Let Go

I understand that having a ghostly roommate might not be something you'd enjoy. If you've tried everything to befriend the ghost, but that seems impossible, it might be time to let the ghost go. You can try saying things like, "Go into the light," or "This house is mine now; you must leave." If that does not work, you can even contact a group of paranormal investigators or a priest to help you out.

I would, however, NOT recommend using a Ouija board, tarot cards, or a séance in your haunted home unless you actually know what you are doing. I am not going to be responsible for a ghost knocking you down a flight of stairs or a demon possession. If you believe your ghost is evil, well then it just might be! You've seen that movie, "Paranormal Activity," haven't you? Don't mess with evil!

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© 2013 Jeannie Marie

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