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How Can I Let You Go?


For so many months, I have been wondering how your ex-girlfriend looks like. Is she prettier than me? Is she slimmer than me? Is she richer? Is she more intelligent? These are the questions that have been playing in my mind since the day I found out about you and her. I cannot understand what’s special about her for you to choose her, for you to hurt me just to be with her. Is she worth all the pain that you have inflicted on me? Is she worth all the tears that you brought me? Is she worth it to have my heart broken?

I can still remember that night when you told me that you were unsure of me and you cannot give me the kind of relationship that I want. I was begging you to choose me, the only time I swallowed my ego for someone. I was crying in front of you, on bended knees, asking you to be with me.

Recently, I saw your picture with her, together with your friends and your family. I didn’t feel any hatred nor anger. I was just sad to see you with her but there’s a big part of me that’s happy to see you happy with her. I can see how she makes you happy and feel loved by the smile plastered on your face. I have nothing but good wishes for you. I was looking at your pictures to justify my action that I did the right thing by letting you go and be with her. I have given you lots of reasons to be with me but I cannot give you the kind of happiness that you found in her.

People are telling me that I still love you. I guess a part of me never stopped loving you. I still care about you. If you will call me right now and need me to listen to you, I won’t hesitate to go to your doorstep and listen to you all night. People are telling me they want to find the kind of love that I gave you. I don’t know how it’s possible to love someone again the way I loved you. I feel like my heart stopped beating from the moment you chose your ex-girlfriend. I don’t know what true love means anymore. I get disappointed whenever I meet guys and I feel like no one could ever compare to what I have felt for you. I got used to having a broken heart, walking around like a dead person. It doesn’t bother me anymore. I still cry at times but I’m accepting the reality that we can never be together anymore, no matter how bad I want you to be mine.

I hope that she loves you more than I loved you. I hope that she will choose you everyday and will never give up on you. I hope that she cares about your welfare and happiness above her own. I hope that she knows your worth, that she will never find another man like you. I hope that she knows how to sacrifice for you. For whatever it’s worth that you chose her, I hope that you have finally found the right one for you in her.


dashingscorpio from Chicago on November 24, 2019:

"Is she worth all the pain that you have inflicted on me? Is she worth all the tears that you brought me? Is she worth it to have my heart broken?" - Clearly the answer to all of these is YES!

In order for your (ex) to have been "the one" he would have to see (you) as being "the one". At the very least your "soulmate" is someone who actually wants to be with you!

Just know this, that guy who you feel you can't live without, there are Billions of women who doing exactly that every single day! In fact you use to be one of them. You had a life before you met him!

In order to "move on" you have to (want) to "let go".

The very first step is accepting {it's over}.

Grieve among your closest friends and family.

Implement the "No contact rule", unfriend in social media block/email and phone numbers, and put away any mementos.

Avoid places you know your ex frequents

Focus on your health, career, friendships/family, travel...etc.

When you're ready start going out on dates.

In a world with over 7 Billion people rejection just means: Next!

Every ending is a new beginning!

Your future lies ahead of you and not behind you.

"Never love anyone who treats you like you're ordinary."

- Oscar Wilde

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