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The Reflection in the Mirror: Change Is Inevitable.


Dana Tate has been painting pictures with words from childhood. She has a passion for life and a heart for romance.


A Call to Awaken to Purpose.

You came into my life and weakened me, so that through you, I could become strong.

You challenged me beyond my own thoughts and limitations, because I had become as complacent as clay.

Then, You shaped, stretched, and molded me and I groaned from the growth of the bones that had not been used in a long time, if ever.

I hated the change. Resisted the growth; and cried shamelessly as I banged on doors that were once open but were now shut!

I collapsed in a heap of pain and shivered from fear of the unknown.

Suddenly, a door among all the closed doors opened and a bright light shined out of it. As I tentatively walked over to it and then through it I was immediately engulfed in fire.

As I walked through the flames I was liquidated, reshaped and refined still, I continued to walk unscathed by the hot flames that licked at my soul and flesh.

And, when I emerged the door shut and I was in an empty room with a mirror. I walked over to the mirror and stared into it and there stood... me… but not me. A stronger, wiser, better, improved version of...me.

Suddenly, the empty room became full of many doors and this time, they were all open. I looked back at the reflection in the mirror and peered closely at my face. The hell I had been through in the transformation didn't even leave a trace.

Instead, the woman who stared back at me was full of confidence, strength and grace. I glanced at the many opened doors behind me; glanced back into the mirror at the reflection before me, and smiled.


Change is the only constant thing.

When we find ourselves in a place where we become stuck or complacent, it's a time to change. As we become lost in the hum-drum of life, doing the same repetitious things day after day, life can become boring. Have you ever asked life what does it want from you? I used the words differently because if you ask most of us what we want out of life, it’s an easy question to answer. But we didn't create ourselves or, put ourselves here, an unseen intelligence made that decision for us so asking the Universe "what do you want from me?" seems to be a question that may bring answers.

As people become enlightened (awakened) as to who they truly are the spirit begins to change whether the flesh appreciates it or not. As doors are suddenly closed and our lives become disrupted we can become fearful. What if we don't like the new change? What if we can't do what the new change is expecting of us? But our fears are unnecessary because the only thing we change into is a new and improved "us" the person we were created to be minus the issues we absorbed in life. As we now discover our purpose and walk through life with new meaning, the doors that reflected the old “us” have been closed, and new doors reflecting the new more confident “us” begins to open.

Change is the only constant thing in this world. If we can't depend on anything else, we can count on the fact that our circumstances will change some for the good and some will not be so good. However, If we accept the fact that nothing will stay the same in our life time, our jobs, our relationships with people, even our personalities our likes and dislikes the "fear" of change will not be so scary.


Fear is a stumbling block.

Reflection in the mirror: is a story about change. Of growing spiritually, of suddenly being awakened to purpose, and how scary it can be because we are creatures of comfort. Having doors close that were once open, and trying to continue to do the old in the new can leave many of us feeling frustrated. Some may even look back on their old life and wish for it back, after all, it may have been bad but it was familiar.

The unexpected or not knowing what to expect is scary. "DO NOT FEAR" has been mentioned in the bible 80+ times (but don't quote me I did not count just went off internet statistics) because fear has the ability to hinder us from reaching our highest potential.

Reflection in the mirror: is a story about a woman who didn't have a choice. As things happened beyond her control and many doors were suddenly shut, she had no choice but to walk through the one door purposely left open for her and, what emerged from the fire was a new creation.

As she smiles at her reflection in the mirror what she realized at that moment was the doors weren't shut to hurt her but to help her. And, just maybe to save her from her worst enemy- herself. She smiles because the question she asks the Universe "What do you want from me?" has been answered. For through those many doors awaits her destiny.

How does fear play a role in your desicions?

© 2015 Dana Tate


Dana Tate (author) from LOS ANGELES on May 21, 2016:

Vocalcoach, it is a pleasure to meet you. Thank you for sharing I really appreciate it. My condolences on your loss. I know that it doesn't matter if it was recent or a long time ago, that type of pain never goes away only lessens with time. There was a time when everything in my life was going so well, then, like today turning into tomorrow that changed. It took awhile for me to pull myself from the self-pity to focus on what was inside of me which was an intense anger towards God. I had become too comfortable and my loss weakened me and I had to become strong in God. That was not easy for a person who took great pride in their independence. This poem is one of my favorite's because it taught me something, which is, life is about growing and reaching new levels and we should never become complacent. We have the ability to stretch ourselves beyond our comfort zones; after-all we are all fearfully and wonderfully made. Thank you again for your kind words.

Audrey Hunt from Idyllwild Ca. on May 14, 2016:

This is a lovely story and I like the opening photo. Depending on the change - change is not always easy. I always thought I was the adaptable type (and I pretty much am), but losing my son to cancer was a change I hope never happens to me again.

But I think most of the changes that come our way afford us the opportunity for expanded growth. I'm always open for this, and it's a good thing I am - based on all the changes I've been through.

Good hub Dana. Will do some sharing.


Dana Tate (author) from LOS ANGELES on December 02, 2015:

Michael-Milec, you hit the nail on the head "Equipped for a meaningful purpose sent to do "my" part in the universe." We forget or, never understand there is a purpose to our being. When I screamed "WHAT DO YOU WANT FROM ME" into the universe I never expected to get an answer.

The process of change for me was scary because I fought it. Now I live for it. I discovered things about myself I never knew. Gifts that were dormant and a passion for life I thought had died with childhood. I think when this story came to my heart I wanted others, who are going through similar experiences, to know the only thing to fear is fear itself. Thank you for reading and leaving such a deep and insightful comment.

Dana Tate (author) from LOS ANGELES on December 02, 2015:

Swalia, I think as human beings we are scared of change and would stay forever in a place where everything is working for us. Because we were created for a purpose, sometimes that decision is taken out of our hands and we are forced to change whether we want to or not.

The scariest thing about change is the fear of the unknown. When I went through a bad period in my life I was so afraid I wanted to die. The only thing I changed into was a better, stronger person.

I would have never ventured out of my comfort zone, however, when things were taken away from me I had to rely on a faith and strength I never knew I had. Thank you for visiting and commenting.

Michael-Milec on November 23, 2015:

Fascinating story about change.

Shocking, "What if we do not like the new changes?" resonates with the "changes are inevitable" : they come,we never stay the same ... In mids of reading your hub, an inspiration hit me: body and soul at a crutial moment stand in oposition to the innermost spiritual being within myself ( real me). Do I understand a process of changing?

It's above comprehentive nature, as "we” becoming new experience a peace that transcends all understanding. Pausing for a moment in awe: I see myself as never before wrapped in the glory becoming more than ever knew myself, the one exceeding my space, my limited time leading further on along an endless "now. “ Equipped for a meaningful purpose sent to do "my" part in the universe.

Shaloo Walia from India on November 19, 2015:

Such an inspirational and powerful message!

I am going through a similar phase where I am stepping out of my comfort zone and venturing into the unknown. It is scary at times. But as you said, one cannot grow unless one accepts and embraces the change.

Dana Tate (author) from LOS ANGELES on October 22, 2015:

That is true Sujaya Vekatesh. whether we appreciate it or not. Thanks for commenting.

sujaya venkatesh on October 19, 2015:

change occurs naturally

Dana Tate (author) from LOS ANGELES on October 17, 2015:

Wow Peg! Thank you so much for your insightful comment. You have truly understood the meaning of this poem. Yes, reinventing ourselves is a trial by fire and even if we don't like the change there is no reason to fear because we will be evolving and growing until the day of completion. Thanks again for your insightful comment.

Peg Cole from North Dallas, Texas on October 16, 2015:

Your prose and story is deep and meaningful to many of us who have undergone a complete remake of ourselves. Reinventing ourselves is really a trial by fire and learning that we are enough is important.

I like what you said, "As we discover who we truly are the change can be scary, as doors are suddenly closed and our lives become disrupted we can become fearful. What if we don't like the new change?" Then we change again, ever evolving.

Dana Tate (author) from LOS ANGELES on October 12, 2015:

Mel Carriere: That is so true, we are afraid to change into something we or others don't recognize. We don't won't to lose people and things that associate with change. Thanks for reading and commenting.

Mel Carriere from Snowbound and down in Northern Colorado on October 11, 2015:

I think you nailed it. I think most of the time we don't take risks not because of fear of failure, but because of fear of change. We are afraid that we will be changed into something we do not recognize, somebody with new expectations placed upon them and new responsibilities. Hence we drag our feet in doing certain things that might propel us forward. Great hub!

Dana Tate (author) from LOS ANGELES on October 07, 2015:

Thank you so much petunia4me: for reading and leaving a nice comment.

petunia4me on October 05, 2015:

I loved the story and the lesson....great work!

Dana Tate (author) from LOS ANGELES on October 03, 2015:

fpherj48. I always appreciate a new reader and their inspiring comments Thank you for reading and commenting. You have truly blessed me today.

Dana Tate (author) from LOS ANGELES on October 03, 2015:

Missy, thank you so much for your encouraging comment. Your comments are so inspiring it makes me realize why I love to write and share. Thanks for the share and the motivating words.

Suzie from Carson City on October 03, 2015:

Very deep and inspirational, Dana. Your story reminds me of billybuc's writing challenge to us, "The Door to No Where."

I enjoy your style and appreciate this eye-opener. Peace, Paula

Missy Smith from Florida on October 03, 2015:

This was awesome Dana. I loved the short story, the way you brought a clear vision of how we grow through challenges, through that fire was a perfect way to explain it. I was so extremely in awe to how you wrote that story. It was brilliant.

You have touched on a subject that I assume all of us constantly examine daily; our growth through time and how we change, and it is scary. It is also necessary growth and makes us stronger and wiser. One can really realize just how brave they are when they look back at that fire.

Great Hub! Great story! sharing! :)

Dana Tate (author) from LOS ANGELES on September 25, 2015:

You must join hubpages and choose the follow button on my profile. Or, go through https://hubpages.com/@danatate. If you choose to join I can also suggest a few other hubbers you can follow. There are many amazing hubbers on this site. Thank you for visiting and commenting.

Alonzo on September 24, 2015:

How can a person follow you and get updated on your new hubs?

Dana Tate (author) from LOS ANGELES on September 23, 2015:

Than you Chocolate for you visit.

Chocolate on September 22, 2015:

Yes, change is scary. Bing thrust in a transformation you are not ready for can be scary. But God knows best. Nice story.

Dana Tate (author) from LOS ANGELES on September 22, 2015:

ChitrangadaSharan: How correct you are. Many times I wish I had stepped out in faith but the fear of change stopped me. Most successful people have failed many times, but they embraced their failure, overcame their fear and continued to strive for whatever they were after. Like freshly squeezed lemonade we must squeeze every drop out of life so we can get the most out of it. Thank you for dropping by and leaving such an insightful comment.

Dana Tate (author) from LOS ANGELES on September 22, 2015:

Thank you Allison for your kind comment.

Chitrangada Sharan from New Delhi, India on September 22, 2015:

A beautiful story in the form of a hub!

They say, 'Change is the only constant thing--'.

Some people embrace change easily, while others are apprehensive and fearful of it. Because it is not very easy to step out of our comfort zones. But sometimes the change can be a blessing and we wish we had taken the risk earlier. So it's wise to embrace the change in my opinion.

Excellent thought provoking hub, well written and well presented!

Allison on September 21, 2015:

Powerful message on spiritual transformation.

Dana Tate (author) from LOS ANGELES on September 21, 2015:

Thank you Venkatachari M. For you comment and visit.

Venkatachari M from Hyderabad, India on September 19, 2015:

Beautiful story with a great message.

Dana Tate (author) from LOS ANGELES on September 19, 2015:

Appreciate you reading and leaving a comment Rehtul.

Luther Cline from 21269 Fire Tower Rd. Elkins, Arkansas on September 19, 2015:

Great lesson there. THANKS.

Dana Tate (author) from LOS ANGELES on September 19, 2015:

Change is coming whether we want it or not. So, we might as well learn to love it. Thanks for commenting.

Eric Dierker from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A. on September 19, 2015:

A wonderful piece. I know that no matter what I do from one minute to the next I am actually changed. So I might as well embrace it.

Dana Tate (author) from LOS ANGELES on September 19, 2015:

Jodah; I had to leave college to take care of my mother who was very ill. Then after she passed I had to work and never went back to pursue my degree. It was a source of disappointment for years. finally I got laid off on my job and was thrust among many young people with degrees. I felt all doors were shut so that I had no choice but to pursue my degree. When I walked across that stage I cried like a baby. I knew that God had blocked all opportunities in order to help me. It was more than- getting my degree- it was about conquering my fear. Thank you for wonderful comment.

John Hansen from Queensland Australia on September 19, 2015:

A beautiful story Dana. Some of us embrace change the rest are fearful of it. It is so easy to get comfortable the way you are, and really have to force yourself out of your comfort zone to change. Usually you find the change to be a blessing and you wish you had risked it earlier. Sometimes it is better to have it forced on you....if you have a choice it's easy to opt out.

Dana Tate (author) from LOS ANGELES on September 18, 2015:

Mabel, thank you for your visit and comment. I fell in love with the photo when I first saw it. It compliments the hub so well. I think its beautiful and so accurate how you describe how we change everyday, yet the mirror reflects the image we are most familiar with. Change is a necessary part of life and should be embraced. Have a blessed weekend!

mabelhenry from Harrisburlg, Pennsylvania on September 18, 2015:

Dearest Dana: To start the opening photo is captivating. I see fire and water. The fire which is refining and the water to refresh what is being made new. I so love that you used the mirror. It is interesting how we never can see the same exact reflection of our selves we saw yesterday because we change everyday, but our mirror reflects the image of our self that we are most familar with. We can overlook changes that are taking place as we age. It is that way with looking into the mirror of the Word, oftentimes we don't see that we have changed and we should take note of that, as we endeavor to change. This is a wonderful hub, it is exciting and signifies how imperative and important change is. I truly enjoyed this hub. Have a grand weekend! I would like to share a poem with you entitled, "Reflection of Glory" https://hubpages.com/literature/REFLECTION-OF-GLOR...

Dana Tate (author) from LOS ANGELES on September 18, 2015:

Frank, thank you for being the first to comment and making my weekend with your nice comment. All blessings. Have a great weekend!

Frank Atanacio from Shelton on September 18, 2015:

I like the way you blend together your short story.. for you it seems effortlessly .. keep up the creative work well done Dana Tate

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