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Saying Hello with a Goodbye-Loss of Love

Updated on October 29, 2017
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Charmaine is a native of the East Coast of Australia who is a freelance writer and poet who loves the unexpectedness of the Divination Arts.

Goodbye, my Love
Goodbye, my Love | Source

I had someone once who made every day mean something. And now, I am lost. And nothing means anything anymore

— Ranata Suzuki
Gentle Autmn Rain
Gentle Autmn Rain | Source


Have you ever lost someone?

Have you ever gone through a door closing on your relationship? Or, realized who you loved, does not love you anymore, or maybe never?

You mourn the loss. Even if the loss of what was, included you hating the relationship you were in.

No matter what the circumstances are, you mourn the loss of what was. You feel a part of you is missing. Just like someone that has had their right arm amputated. The amputee’s senses keeps telling him, his right arm is still attached, yet, when he looks down to where his right arm is, there is nothing there.


Your Heart Aches...

Your heart aches day in and day out. It feels near possible your heart is going to physically break into pieces. Death stands at the doorway, biding his time.

Loss and regret forms a lump in your throat. Swallowing is like saying yes, to a lump of tears knitted into a tight ball of concrete. It’s impossible to swallow. Let alone, let go.

In our minds, we know the break up must happen because it is just too painful to stay in the relationship any longer

You go out chasing pavements. Even though, a part of you, wishes you were back with him and hoped it could be different.

What if we could swing our heads (and therefore our hearts) from connecting less exclusively to the sadness or anger in the word, goodbye? Shifting our knowing and wishes to a more giving, or humane way.

We move on but we still reminisce how we once loved that other. Remember, they took up our whole heart.

Walking Away
Walking Away | Source

The Language and Context of the Word, Goodbye....

Let us see if we can now say Goodbye, with the wish to send them safety and peace, instead of sadness or anger.

We can find it easier to do this if we just stopped for a moment and looked at the language and original context of our everyday word, Goodbye.

The French have the word adieu to say goodbye which means to God.

The Spanish say goodbye through the word adios which means to God.

The English have the word goodbye which means God Be with You.

Uncertainty | Source

You Nor I, Do Not Know What is Going to Happen...

The word goodbye has an inherited meaning where when expressed, it means to place one in the hands of God for protection.

Author Robert Rowland Smith draws on philosophy, literature, politics and psychology, translating the meaning of our everyday goodbye into this meaning: -

…. You or I, do not know what is going to happen to each of us when we separate, but whatever it is, I hope God will take care of you……

When we say goodbye to another there is an inner understanding that life is uncertain and that both you and your other are vulnerable to these uncertainties.

At the moment of parting when we say good bye, it carries sadness with it, while simultaneously heralding in something new. There is this unsaid knowing that this goodbye could be the very last time you see this person again.

Peace and Hope wishes in your Goodbye
Peace and Hope wishes in your Goodbye | Source

Removing the omnipotent presence of God, still Infers the Wish of Hope and Peace

Even if you removed the omnipotent presence of God out of the meaning of goodbye, the word goodbye would still infer a sentiment of hope and a wish for the other to stay safe and well. We see this with the Germans and Italians. They don’t say goodbye, but they say in their language, until I see you again. The Arabic and Hebrew language wish peace to the other as they separate.

While goodbye introduces the element of new, there is a sense of ending that may or may not be wanted. Only you and the other will only know how that goodbye turned out to be.

How Can We Now Say Goodbye?

With that said, let us think before we say Goodbye and choose perhaps another word, if we can.

Just pull yourself up and recollect what attracted you to him/her in the first place.

With that expressed, I would like to leave you with a small compilation of poems and songs about the loss of love, including a poem I wrote about the loss of love, titled, Saying Hello with a Goodbye. I hope you enjoy them.

I am the thousand winds that blow...
I am the thousand winds that blow... | Source

I Am the Gentle Autumn’s Rain

Do not stand at my grave and weep

I am not there, I do not sleep,

I am a thousand winds that blow,

I am the diamond glint on the snow,

I am the sunlight on ripened grain,

I am the gentle rain.

When you wake in the morning hush.

I am the stuff, uplifting rush,

Of quiet birds in circling flight,

I am the soft starlight at night.

Do not stand at my grave and weep,

I am not there, I do not sleep.


Kind Lies

Tell me it is a nightmare

Rock away my fears

Hold me so gently

Say you will never leave me

Say it did not end

Stroke my face and whisper

Just for now…by Alison Stormwolf

Miss HIs Embrace
Miss HIs Embrace | Source

Loss of Love

I find my place

In between your arms

In between your tender kisses

And soft whispers of “it will be alright”

In between the warmth of your embrace,

And the scent of your neck,

And the fierceness of your touch,

I find my place inside your soul

By Cynthia Go

To feel more, to love more...
To feel more, to love more... | Source

Grief Reminds Me

To love more openly

To express more freely

To feel more deeply

To live more fully

Grief Reminds Me

Of all that I have lost

And all that I still have

Of all that was

And all that can be

Grief Reminds Me

The memories made

The memories still to make

Of what has been done

Of what is left to do

Grief Reminds Me That Love Never Dies

By Angelina

Saying Hello with a Goodbye-Loss of Love

The waves of melody,

swim from the ocean of loss endlessly,

across the worn dance floor,

to caress the fragile fears held in store.

My heart hears the heart speak

and flies up the spiral staircase antique,

on wings of hope,

edged with teardrops of mope.

Memories open and close like sliding doors,

mixing and melding velvet explores.

Just as the lounge singer,

croons the moon that lingers.

The steamy melody,

fuses the heart and soul ecstasy,

so, the singer and stranger,

walk down the same laneway of heat exchanger.

Our Goodbyes are out with hurt and anger,

fear, sadness and rancour.

Yet, our Goodbye,

also, comes from up on high.

Peace be with you, stay safe and protected,

I loved you once and felt resurrected.

By Threekeys

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    • Deborah Minter profile image

      Deborah Minter 8 days ago from U.S, California

      Sad and touching......Nice article!

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      Threekeys 2 weeks ago from Australia

      "Your comment", the words, is a error...

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      Threekeys 2 weeks ago from Australia

      Jo and Eric I appreciate you making time to read my writing. I hope you also enjoyed the music. I just love love the melody of Chasing Pavements. In fact, the song is still playing over in my mind. Can't shake it. Your Comment...

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      Jo Miller 2 weeks ago from Tennessee

      Beautifully done. Thanks, Charmaine.

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      Eric Dierker 3 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thanks. I like this. I just realized that I do not say good bye. I suppose I should incorporate into my lexicon.

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      Threekeys 3 weeks ago from Australia

      Yes...goodbye can be a very sad word.

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      Gypsy Rose Lee 3 weeks ago from Riga, Latvia

      Always found goodbye the saddest word if it meant never again. Enjoyed your poetry.

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      Elijah A Alexander Jr 3 weeks ago from Washington DC

      Thanks for the definition of "goodbye", that's one I never heard of although I knew the French and Spanish words means to god. That's what I enjoy about places like this, bits of enlightening information is often passed along and is something very important to becoming enlightened. I can see why he who is called Jesus said as I paraphrase "share what and how you have observed things" to the "born again"...

      As I well know,

      we share what we know

      and others what they know

      by which we grow.

      Neither have I seen "I Am the Gentle Autumn’s Rain" but I do know water without an "s" means knowledge. The rain of the Bible's flood was a knowledge, ignorance because they accepted the judgmental adjectives Adam, Eve and their descendants lived by. It's also what Adan and Eve's death was, "the inability to comprehend all things" as the term"'man" means.

      Thanks for sharing it also.

      One other thought before I go.

      "Philo" = love or lover, "sophy" = wisdom which makes it to say "lover of wisdom" which is the person.

      And so,

      I share what I know

      That we both might grow.

      Peace, which has become my fare-thee-well term.