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Gone Too Soon My Precious Son - Tribute to Kevin Shenko

I became Kevin's mom from the day we met, not by birth, but by love and it hurt so much to lose him on a day I cannot forget.

Kev's memorial - the urn with his ashes are behind the white heart shaped pillow with white roses.

Kev's memorial - the urn with his ashes are behind the white heart shaped pillow with white roses.

A tribute to Kevin Shenko

A tribute to Kevin John Shenko, my son/stepson who expired on the 13th of August 2017 at the hands of his own son John Shenko III. This poem was written for Kevin’s father John Shenko II.

I cried so hard the day you were born

And harder still the day you were gone

All our hopes and dreams have come undone

Gone to soon my precious son


When you were young

We laughed, talked and planned

I was always proud of you as you became a man

Things that you accomplished will always stand


Kevin, working on our home in Saint Charles, IL 1977/1978

Kevin, working on our home in Saint Charles, IL 1977/1978

We shared it all

Doing things together

Talking as we were shopping in the mall

Remembering as you filleted our fishing haul


Shyron and Kevin a day of fishing in Lake Michigan

Shyron and Kevin a day of fishing in Lake Michigan

Kevin filleting our fish.

Kevin filleting our fish.

When you became a father of your own son

And we cried together and you said

Now I know the love you have for me it’s the same

Then after me you named your son John


Then came a baby girl

You were so happy

Your family was your world

Then trouble started to unfurl


Sadness came with the diagnoses

Asperger syndrome and autism is what the doctors say

Bipolar! Your wife screamed, He must be locked away

No! You said, I will take care of him until my dying day

She retaliates, support for our children you will still pay


Undaunted you taught Johnny how to walk

Ride a bike and even inline skate

Taking him to races across the country

And many a race he won


No one to dispute your ex

When she has her say

Now she has her wish

Johnny is locked away


I am left with stressful days ahead

Remembering things we shared

And so many things we did and said

Are now I am faced with empty days without you instead


You, Kevin deserved better cards

Instead of the hand you were dealt

You did not deserve to die,

At the hands of the son you so dearly loved

Gone to soon my precious son


Kevin and his daughter

Kevin and his daughter

Your baby girl goes off to college in a few days

She should be planning a party

Instead of your wake

Gone to soon my precious son


I cried so hard the day that you were born

And harder still the day you were gone

All our hopes and dreams have come undone

Gone to soon my precious son


© 2017 Shyron E Shenko

Comments

Shyron E Shenko (author) from Texas on April 27, 2019:

Au fait/Cee, thank you again for the comments.

Ethel, thanks for the virtual hug and warm condolences.

C E Clark from North Texas on March 20, 2019:

Sharing this wonderful tribute to Kevin on FB and AH. Like Ethel says, there really is nothing I can say that will make this better or easier. Blessings dear friend. I hope the days are easier to bear.

Ethel Smith from Kingston-Upon-Hull on October 22, 2018:

A beautiful tribute through your pain. No words from me seem right, so just a virtual hug Shyron and thank you

Shyron E Shenko (author) from Texas on August 15, 2018:

Missy, thank you for the comment. No parent should ever lose a child, they are suppose to be here after the parents are gone.

I write for the same reasons as you and also to find reasons for the things that just happens.

Blessings, Peace and Love be with you.

Shyron E Shenko (author) from Texas on June 05, 2018:

Dolores, thank you so much for the comments and compliments. No I will never get over either, my hubby did not get over it and too soon he went to be with his son. It will always sad and I will always miss them both.

Blessings always.

Shyron E Shenko (author) from Texas on June 05, 2018:

Ann, thank you my dear friend for the comments and compliments. Yes it is hard and my hubby never got over it and I lost him too.

Blessings my friend.

Dolores Monet from East Coast, United States on June 04, 2018:

Hi Shyron, I am sorry to read of the loss of your son. Your beautiful poem is a wonderful tribute to him and your loss. I understand that you will never get over this, but will learn to live with it. Sometimes that kind of sadness, the kind that never really goes away, can bring a kind of peace. We learn to understand what really matters in life, and our new peaceful, saddened hearts can so easily accept minor problems and trouble which once seemed huge becomes nothing. Love never dies.

Ann Carr from SW England on June 04, 2018:

What a sad story but a beautiful poem in the telling, Shyron.

How terrible it is when a mental illness brings about such actions.

It must be hard to remember this; my thoughts are with you.

Ann

Shyron E Shenko (author) from Texas on April 07, 2018:

Chuck, thank you for the comment and sympathy, I am so sorry for your loss also.

Blessings and peace to you always.

Chuck Fasst from Portland, Oregon on April 05, 2018:

Gone too soon. I just published my story about losing my Mom. Then I see your story. Mental Illness is bad. Murder is worse especially that close to you. Sorry for your loss.

Shyron E Shenko (author) from Texas on March 29, 2018:

Angela, thank you so very much for the comment and the well wishes.

Blessings always.

Angela Tagliamonte from Florida on March 27, 2018:

This is heartbreakingly beautiful. May you and your family be surrounded by love and light, always.

Shyron E Shenko (author) from Texas on February 10, 2018:

Thank you Andy for your heart-felt comments. You are appreciated.

Blessings always.

The Shenko Family

Shyron E Shenko (author) from Texas on January 21, 2018:

Andy, thank you so very much for the comment. Kevin will forever be missed by anyone who ever knew him, he was a special person.

Blessings my friend and I hope you stop by again.

Andy on January 19, 2018:

I worked with Kevin for 10 years. Kevin we miss you bought your not forgotten. You did everything for your family and you are always are in our prayers

Shyron E Shenko (author) from Texas on January 18, 2018:

MiBssy, thank you for the comment. No parent should ever lose a child, they are suppose to be here after the parents are gone.

I write for the same reasons as you and also to find reasons for the things that just happens.

Blessings, Peace and Love be with you.

Missy Smith from Florida on January 16, 2018:

This is extremely sad. I cannot fathom what it must feel like to lose a child in such a shocking way. I hope peace and closure find you and your family, and I know writing this is a good start, as I, myself, write to find a calming sanity to sometimes the harsh realities of life.

Peace and Love be with you!

Shyron E Shenko (author) from Texas on January 12, 2018:

Tamara, thank you so much for the comment and compliment. I have 2 other sons and it would kill me if something happened to either of them.

I find that sharing Kevin’s story is therapeutic, but this has almost killed my husband.

Blessings and hugs my sweet friend.

BBYCGN from Uninhabited Regions on January 08, 2018:

Shyron,

This is immensely beautiful, but as you know so well, heartbreaking. I have sons and ... the emotions spill over.

Thank you for being so brave as to share your eloquent words.

God Bless You & your family,

Tamara

xxx

Shyron E Shenko (author) from Texas on December 10, 2017:

Nikki, thank you for your words of sympathy and strength. I do appreciate you.

Blessings and hugs.

Nikki Khan from London on December 09, 2017:

Ohh what a painful period of being separated for your loved ones.I am so sorry Shyron to hear about your loss.May God give you strength to face this difficult time dear.

Many Blessings.

Shyron E Shenko (author) from Texas on December 05, 2017:

Frank, thank you for reading and commenting.

I do appreciate you, Blessings my friend.

Shyron E Shenko (author) from Texas on December 05, 2017:

Thank you Nell for the condolence. I do appreciate you my dear friend.

Frank Atanacio from Shelton on December 05, 2017:

my goodness, tearful but loving tribute..

Nell Rose from England on December 04, 2017:

Oh Shyron, I am so sorry! what a nightmare! love and hugs to you x

Shyron E Shenko (author) from Texas on December 01, 2017:

Dream On, thank you my treasured friend for the prayers and comment.

Blessings always

DREAM ON on November 30, 2017:

I just want to let you know you are in my prayers at another difficult time in your life. Love reaches even the darkest of places. I appreciate all your comments and your thoughts. Take care of yourself and pleasant dreams.

Shyron E Shenko (author) from Texas on November 29, 2017:

Genna my dear friend, thank you for your condolence, I really do appreciate you...forgive me for taking so long to get back to you, as you probably know my husband is not well and the death of his son added to his problems, He will never get over it.

Thank you also for the compliment. There are complications that would be difficult to explain here, but one day.

Blessings my beautiful friend.

Genna East from Massachusetts, USA on November 25, 2017:

Dearest Shyron...

I am sorry for your loss,..I've been away for the Hub due to work, and regret not writing this comment sooner, dear Shyron. Time is a healer. You have penned beautiful, poignant words that tell the story of love and loss, and what lives on from the loss. My deepest sympathy.

Shyron E Shenko (author) from Texas on November 22, 2017:

Cris, thank you so very much, I appreciate you so very much.

Blessings my beautiful friend.

CrisSp from Sky Is The Limit Adventure on November 21, 2017:

Sorry about this Shyron. I have no words but love...the purest love I send you.

Shyron E Shenko (author) from Texas on November 18, 2017:

You are welcome Jeff.

Hope all is well with you and your family, Blessings.

Jeff Skurka on November 18, 2017:

... thank you Shyron for this lovely poem ; God Bless !

Shyron E Shenko (author) from Texas on November 18, 2017:

Anita, thank you so very much for you condolences. I really appreciate you.

Shyron E Shenko (author) from Texas on November 18, 2017:

Peggy, thank you for you caring support. You are right Kevin is our loss and Heaven's gain.

My son says Kev really had a sense of humor making him (Walter) his executor. I can't explain that on this venue, but if you knew the players in this game you would know what I meant.

Blessings to you my friend.

Anita Hasch on November 18, 2017:

What a sad story. Bless you and so sorry for your loss.

Shyron E Shenko (author) from Texas on November 17, 2017:

Cathy, thank you so much for the comment.

You are a wonderful, beautiful friend.

Peggy Woods from Houston, Texas on November 17, 2017:

Oh Shyron,

I am so very sorry for your loss. I hope that each and every day brings some comfort and that as the days pass the healing will take place in your heart. My sincere condolences to your entire family and all of Kevin's friends as well.

Cathy Strathmann on November 16, 2017:

Such a beautiful tribute. Your and John's love never ceases to amaze me. Keeping you in our thoughts and prayers.

Shyron E Shenko (author) from Texas on November 12, 2017:

Louise, thank you for your sympathy, comment and compliment, I do appreciate you.

Blessings my friend.

Louise Powles from Norfolk, England on November 12, 2017:

That is such a touching and moving poem, Shyron. I'm so sorry for your loss.

Shyron E Shenko (author) from Texas on October 24, 2017:

Patricia, thank you for the sympathy, Angels and comment, but most of all thank you for the healing tears that wash away pain and grief. Kev was a special person and things are still happening behind the scenes that is against every thing the is decent, I will write of those things one day.

Blessings my dear friend.

Patricia Scott from North Central Florida on October 24, 2017:

O am reduced to tears. So sorry for your loss. No words can soothe the wound. Know I am sending comforting Angels to you this evening ps

Shyron E Shenko (author) from Texas on October 03, 2017:

Devika, thank you so very much for the comments.

Blessings and hugs dear friend.

Shyron E Shenko (author) from Texas on October 01, 2017:

Thank you Flourish, for your care and concerns there are things that need ironing out, but I guess we will get there.

Blessings and hugs dear friend.

FlourishAnyway from USA on September 30, 2017:

I'm back to let you know that I'm still thinking of you and hope that you are doing okay under the circumstances. My heart goes out to you, sweet lady.

Shyron E Shenko (author) from Texas on September 23, 2017:

DREAM ON, thank you for the comment and for the love and hugs. I need to share who Kevin was and how much he was loved and how much he will be missed, life was not fair to him in my opinion, I feel like God loves some more than others.

Blessings my dear friend.

DREAM ON on September 22, 2017:

I woke up to greet my friend with a hello Fall. Little did I know how much sadness and pain you have seen. Losing someone so special and dear. Your words express so many deep thoughts and feelings. All I can say is how much I care. My voice is trembling and my eyes swell up with tears. Sending you love and hugs. Thank you for sharing this deep and personal hub. Life doesn't seem fair and I don't have or know reasons why things happen the way they do. I believe God has a master plan. Far greater than we can understand. I think we should love all we can till the day we fall in Gods hands.

Shyron E Shenko (author) from Texas on September 18, 2017:

Thank you for the complements, condolence and comments Au fait. I really appreciate you.

Blessings my dear friend.

Shyron E Shenko (author) from Texas on September 12, 2017:

DDE, thank you for the kind words and comments.

Blessings my dear friend.

Shyron E Shenko (author) from Texas on September 10, 2017:

Chitrangada, thank you, I appreciate your expressions of sympathy and thank you for reading and commenting on my tribute to Kevin.

Blessings my dear friend.

Shyron E Shenko (author) from Texas on September 10, 2017:

Maureen, my dear friend thank you for the comment, I appreciate you more than you know. You are such a special person…I love you too.

Blessings and hugs.

Shyron E Shenko (author) from Texas on September 09, 2017:

Thank you Devika for your comment and expression of sympathy, you are a dear friend and I really appreciate you.

DDE on September 09, 2017:

Sorry for your loss. Please take care. Its more than hard, or difficult but in your heart you know best.

Shyron E Shenko (author) from Texas on September 08, 2017:

Audrey, thank you so very much for you sympathy. I still cannot believe that it happened and Kev is gone. My comfort comes from Kev's friends and my Hub family, like you and all my Hubber friends. You are a Blessing.

Shyron E Shenko (author) from Texas on September 08, 2017:

Dear Martie, thank you for the comment and condolences. I guess other people have been dealt worse hands than ours, but it does hurt to lose someone this way, I can feel Kev’s anguish at losing his life to his only son. Yes his son was dealt the worst hand of all.

Thank you my dear friend for the love and wishes. Sending you love and wishes and Blessings also.

C E Clark from North Texas on September 06, 2017:

What a touching tribute to Kevin! And what a horrible thing that has happened. I can only say again, that I hope you and John are taking care of yourselves and each other during this so very difficult time that there really are no words to convey one's sorrow.

I know Chipper must be a great comfort to you both now, with his unconditional love. Blessings to you both. May God comfort you and help each day to be a little better than the one before, knowing that while Kevin is no longer with you, he is at least with God . . .

Audrey Howitt from California on September 05, 2017:

Oh Shyron! My heart goes out to you and to your family! This is such a huge loss--I don't know how we manage to survive, but somehow we do--I hope you can find comfort in your community and in your faith--my love to all of you

Shyron E Shenko (author) from Texas on September 04, 2017:

Jeff, thank you for your kind words, thank you for being you and for being at the memorial.

John and I still cannot believe Kev is gone, just yesterday we were driving home and John said, next time Kevin is here, then began to cry. Neither of us can believe that he is gone.

John said he feels empty and scared and he does not know why, it hurts even more today than yesterday. I guess the shock has worn off and reality has set in.

Blessings to you dear friend, we love you too.

Jeff Skurka on September 03, 2017:

... Dear Shyron , I love John and You to the upmost and always have . I have lost my dear brother and forever will be at a loss in my heart ! I can't believe a man who has worked so hard and followed the rules to have a good life ; be taken away like this ! I still can't believe it ; and time will heal my sorrow ... I thank you for your poem and pray John and You will have peace of heart ...

Martie Coetser from South Africa on September 03, 2017:

Dear Shyron, my heart goes out to you and your husband and Kevin John Shenko II's daughter. Surely....

All of you deserved better cards

Instead of the hand you were dealt

You did not deserve this tragedy

At the hands of the one that were dealt

the worse card of all.

I am sending you my love and best wishes.

Maureen on September 03, 2017:

Beautiful expressions. Words cannot describe your pains. I am so sorry for you all. God Bless your family.. love you

Shyron E Shenko (author) from Texas on September 02, 2017:

Thank you Deanna,

Blessings to you

Shyron E Shenko (author) from Texas on September 01, 2017:

Jo, thank you so much for the comment and condolences. Yes we were fortunate to have Kevin in our lives.

Jo Miller from Tennessee on September 01, 2017:

What a wonderful tribute to your son. You were lucky to have him in your life. I hope the good memories can help you and your husband find some solace. So sorry for this loss in your life.

Chitrangada Sharan from New Delhi, India on August 31, 2017:

So sorry to know about your loss! You have given a beautiful tribute to your son in the form of this poem. It's painful when loved ones leave . A Vacuum is created that cannot be filled in spite of trying hard to do so.

May God give you enough strength to bear this loss may he rest in peace!

Shyron E Shenko (author) from Texas on August 29, 2017:

Terrie, thank you so much for your comment. Yes he was an amazing boy, son, brother, an amazing friend and an amazing father. If you go to his facebook page, which is being keep open for and by his friends.

I appreciate you

Blessings my friend.

Terrie Lynn from Canada on August 29, 2017:

Hi Shyron, I am so sorry for your loss. He sounds like an amazing father and man. May the memories you have always comfort and keep you well. May he rest in peace.

Shyron E Shenko (author) from Texas on August 29, 2017:

Dear Patty, thank you for you comforting words, prayers and sympathy.

We had lots of good memories and we went boating almost every weekend when the boys were young.

I don't know where the news papers got the idea that John was bipolar, I know he has Asperger Syndrome and Autism and Kevin did not tell us he is bipolar. John was working 16 hours a day, he finished high school with A's and B's and had finished 2 semesters of college and was planning to open his own business.

Kevin raised John from age 10, but still paid child support for both children. He was an amazing man.

Blessings my dear friend.

Shyron E Shenko (author) from Texas on August 29, 2017:

Janis, thank you for sharing my pain and thank you for the healing angels.

Blessings and hugs.

Shyron E Shenko (author) from Texas on August 29, 2017:

Phyllis, my dear friend thank you for the thoughts and prayers, I appreciate you more than you know.

Yes I know that you are here for me in thought and spirit.

Blessings and hugs

Shyron E Shenko (author) from Texas on August 29, 2017:

Flourish, my beautiful friend, I thank you for the hugs and consoling wises, I appreciate you so very much.

Blessings and hugs to you dear friend.

Shyron E Shenko (author) from Texas on August 29, 2017:

Sandy, thank you so much for the sympathy and comments.

Blessings my friend.

Shyron E Shenko (author) from Texas on August 29, 2017:

Shannon, my dear friend thank you for the comments. What a comfort to have such wonderful friends as you.

Yes I loved Kevin and he love his children more than life itself. Kevin was a special kind of man, he will forever be missed.

Blessings my dear friend.

Shyron E Shenko (author) from Texas on August 29, 2017:

moonlake, thank you for you sympathy and comment.

Blessings my friend.

Shyron E Shenko (author) from Texas on August 29, 2017:

Jo, my treasured friend, thank you for the thoughts and prayers and comment. I know that Kev is in a better place, I wish he could be here, but I know he would suffer more, he would go to his son and forgive him and do everything he could to get help for him, Kev, had an appointment for Johnny for Monday the 14th to get him help.

Blessings my friend.

Shyron E Shenko (author) from Texas on August 29, 2017:

Paula, thank you for your kind words, love and hugs, it is my dear beloved friends like you that make it possible to tolerate the pain. Kev was such a role model for my sons and I know that he played a great part in how they developed into two men I am so proud of.

I love you too dear friend.

Patty Inglish MS from USA and Asgardia, the First Space Nation on August 29, 2017:

Shyron, I share your grief. I had to wait a day before I could even get together words of reply.

Having never had a child, I've had students who died and your pain must be ten times what I have felt. Your son tried to help his own son, despite the odds, and I respect and admire that in him. In a way, he gave his life for his son, but his life was also stolen; but also, it was a meaningful like and always will be so.

I pray for peace and good memories for you; and for our country to get a grip on mental illnesses attacking our youth, from birth upwards. In my professional life, I've seen "bipolar" become a catchall, but I am urging the mental and medical health systems to look beyond that for cure and prevention.

My deepest sympathies to you today and prayers going up continually.

Patty

Shyron E Shenko (author) from Texas on August 29, 2017:

Howard, thank you so much my friend. He was not dealt a fair hand, but he played the cards he was dealt better than most. He was and is a special soul. I can still hear some of the "Kevinisms" from the people who really knew him.

Blessings my friend.

Shyron E Shenko (author) from Texas on August 29, 2017:

Mike, thank you for the comments. I found myself smiling this morning when dusting and I came across the original movie "Toy Story" we played it for the little ones, but Kev and I enjoyed it as much if not more than they did, he was crying from laughing so hard and the more he laughed the more I laughed...and on and on until we were hurting from laughing so hard.

Blessings to you always.

Janis Leslie Evans from Washington, DC on August 29, 2017:

Shyron, I'm in tears, my God. I'm so sorry. I see now why your heart ached for my poem about my brother. We share pain now, however your loss is so recent. But I cannot compare my loss to yours, losing a son, no words. All I can do is pray for your comfort. Condolences and healing angels are sent your way.

Shyron E Shenko (author) from Texas on August 29, 2017:

Bill, thank you for the comment and the hugs. I guess we are alike in that we find it easier to express ourselves in writing.

Thank you for the hugs, Blessings always.

Shyron E Shenko (author) from Texas on August 29, 2017:

Peg, thank you for the expressions of sympathy and hugs and love. I really appreciate you and love you also.

Shyron E Shenko (author) from Texas on August 29, 2017:

Maria, my dear beautiful friend, you are so appreciated. Thank you for the bushels of love, hugs and peace and for the comment. Blessings my friend, I love you too.

Shyron E Shenko (author) from Texas on August 29, 2017:

Cheryl, thank you so much for your prayers, the wonderful people like you have helped to ease the pain, but I know that only a lot of time will make the pain bearable.

Blessings my dear friend.

Shyron E Shenko (author) from Texas on August 29, 2017:

Deanna, thank you for your condolences. Hope all is well with you, say hello to your mom and dad.

Shyron E Shenko (author) from Texas on August 29, 2017:

Linda, thank you for your sympathy. Blessing always.

Phyllis Doyle Burns from High desert of Nevada. on August 29, 2017:

Oh Shryron, my dear friend. You are in my thoughts and prayers. May healing energies shower you and your loved ones with love and spiritual strength. Please know I am here for you in thought and spirit.

FlourishAnyway from USA on August 28, 2017:

Oh, dear, Shyron, This is heartbreaking news and words are not adequate consolation for a personal tragedy like this. Please know that we are so sorry for your loss and you remain in our thoughts. We are your Hub family. Sending you hugs from across the internet, dear lady.

Sandy Mertens from Wisconsin on August 28, 2017:

Sorry for your loss. Beautiful tribute to your son.

Shannon Henry from Texas on August 28, 2017:

This is such a sad tale, Shyron. I can feel your love throughout and his love for his children. My heart goes out to you.

moonlake from America on August 28, 2017:

So very sorry for your loss.

Jo Alexis-Hagues from Lincolnshire, U.K on August 28, 2017:

Shyron, I am so very sorry for your loss. At times like this, words are inadequate, nevertheless, I just had to tell you that you are in my thoughts and prayers. Your poem is a beautiful and moving tribute to your son. May he rest in peace.

Blessings Jo.

Suzie from Carson City on August 28, 2017:

Shyron, Oh sweet friend.....Please know that my heart breaks with yours and John's...what an horrific tragedy to bear. There are no more words that will soothe such deep pain at this time.

I send my love and hugs of comfort to you & John, his grand daughter and all your special loved ones.

We here all love you Shyron....& are with you now in spirit. Paula

Howard Schneider from Parsippany, New Jersey on August 28, 2017:

I am so very sorry for your loss, Shyron. Words cannot come close to what you feel but you certainly did with this wonderful and touching poem. Rest in peace Kevin.

mckbirdbks from Emerald Wells, Just off the crossroads,Texas on August 28, 2017:

Hello Shy - Your heavy heart will survive. Your smile will slowly return. Writing this beautiful tribute is the beginning of your healing.

Bill Holland from Olympia, WA on August 28, 2017:

Well that just sucks, Shyron! I am worthless when it comes to finding the correct words to deal with grief. Like you I would most likely turn to writing. Well done, my friend, and hugs coming your way.

Peg Cole from Northeast of Dallas, Texas on August 28, 2017:

Shyron, I can't imagine the heartbreak you're feeling right now and so many levels of pain. My heart goes out to you at this time of your sadness and loss. Hugs to you and much love.

Maria Jordan from Jeffersonville PA on August 28, 2017:

Dear Shyron,

This is a beautiful tribute. I'm sending bushels of love, hugs and peace for you and your family.

'Gone too soon' and RIP. Love you, Maria

Cheryl A Whitsett from Jacksonville, Fl on August 28, 2017:

So sorry for your loss Shyron. I know that no words could make it better but I pray you and your family will find comfort in your time of need.