Dreams Do Not Lie: Thoughts on the Purpose of Dreams
Don & Phil, "The Everly Brothers"
"When I need you, in my arms....when I need you and all your charms, whenever I want you, all I have to do is dream...........
You can hear the melody and you know the words of this song. Brothers, Don and Phil Everly, possibly the most popular music duo of the '50's-'60's, recorded the love song, "All I Have to do is Dream," released in April 1958.
The Baby Boomer generation believed in the music, the lyrics and the love that made this era so magical and memorable. So much so that it continues to hold millions of fans yet today, dedicated to "The Golden Oldies."
What is this dreaming given such awesome power in the song? Can we really dream our lover into our arms as we drift into slumber?
We can..but not as simply as may be suggested by Don and Phil.
What does it mean to...DREAM?
We snuggle into our comfy bed and wiggle around a bit until the perfect spot is found....and in our favorite position, we know soothing slumber will soon quiet the world.
For just a moment, the day now done and over, sneaks into our semi-consciousness for one final good-bye. The purpose of our senses is gently placed on pause and we are surrendered to the whims of the Universe.
It may happen that the night goes into morning without a single sound or nudge or butterfly to tickle us. But often, imp-like Dream Weavers sprinkle pixie dust about our pillows and silk pajamas. Soon they sing and dance for us and take us to a sparkling place as big and open as the sky.
We've all had dreams, perhaps a thousand times. Some dreams so vivid and clear....they play like motion pictures of every sort.
In our dreams, we see familiar faces whose voices ring true to their actual sound, as their movements and smiles are every bit a mirror image. There may be strangers too, who prove to startle us and set our mind to wonder. "Who is that man with the ruddy face and calloused hands? Why do I not recognize him as I do my loved ones? I need to know why he is here....."
When morning comes, you see your dream through a groggy haze but you don't forget the eerie discomfort caused by the stranger's presence. This stays with you throughout the day and burrows into memory, to taunt in future dreams.
"We are not hyypocrites in our sleep."
This is a quote from the book, "On Dreams," by English writer, William Hazlitt (1778-1830).
I glean several thoughts from these words. It's fairly evident that Hazlitt is suggesting here that in our dreams, only authentic selves and convicted beliefs are presented. I would think then, that we cannot pretend to be other than who we truly are, at our very core. There are no games played in our dreams. Is this what you find in Hazlitt's statement? Thinking back to any one of several dreams I've had that remain in my memory, I submit to William's opinion.
No mind games in our dreams? Interesting and a bit unsettling as well. For me, this opens an entire world of contemplation.....in hopes of grasping a deeper understanding of self, as well as those in our life whom we're sure that we know so well on a conscious level.
In dreams, I recall being treated unfairly or spoken to harshly by individuals who mean so much to me. People I have loved and depended on for truth and comfort with a deep conviction of their love for me as well.
I would ultimately find these dreams unpleasant and hurtful....even feeling disappointment and devastation within my dream....like a palpable emptiness inside. I am forced to see a reality of my wakeful self.
I see that in life, I have created myself as a force of control.....a woman with strength and resolve, not subject to a fragile image. I have shut down emotion and held steadfast to indignation. My mantras are all of blocking out, pushing aside and waving off those who might attack me or mine. I've learned so well, my image of steel. I embrace it as my essence. It's kept me safe and lent me the surge of pride so necessary in moving forward. I can appear to have little concern for chaos all around, as it relates to me.
But if I'm to believe, "We are not hypocrites in our sleep," what must I do with my protective facades? Is this yet another moment of self-analysis, weighing what I've learned and what I've chosen? Must I go back to evaluate again? Can't I just refuse to dream?
Deep within, the person that I truly am, seeks freedom to live and to thrive as she has been assigned. Building walls to hide behind and masking smiles with scorn.....laughter for tears and indifference to love......? How shameful can our efforts be? We rob from our very souls to present as just a shell.
Should we fear our dreams?
"He who learned aright, about the signs that come in sleep,will find that they have an important influence over all things.".......Hippocrates
Some nights I dread to fall asleep, afraid of what or who might visit in my dreams. If only I could write the script of my own dreams and choose the cast of characters. My dream would be of all things wonderful and my ego would not suffer. The heroes of my fantasies would never leave my side.
"Only the dreamer shall understand realities, though in truth, his dreaming must be not out of proportion to his waking..."........Chinese Proverb
So much for creating our own dreams. If you've taken any amount of time to study the subject of Dreams and Dreaming...you should have a fairly accurate sense of what the scientists and experts have had to report.
While sleep patterns were first discovered in 1935, it wasn't until the early 1950s that dreaming sleep was more accurately evaluated, identified and explained. In 1953, Professor Nathaniel Kleitman at the University of Chicago, via a series of live experiments, came to conclude that rapid eye movement or REM. during sleep became associated with dreaming. Conversely, non-REM. or NREM is characterized by dreamless sleep.
From this basic foundation in knowledge of dreams and dreaming, the general scientific study of dreams rose to thousands of experiments and volumes of text.
Our Dreams will teach and guide us.
I chose to accept long ago,that my dreams come in friendship to do only good. If I hold them closely and listen well, my questions will be answered and my doubts put out of mind.
In all dreams there are lessons to be learned. If we look deep enough, there are countless gifts free for the taking. No dream comes to us without purpose and treasure. It is up to us to be aware and to focus on the messages passed along in our dreams.
When loved ones come to us in slumber, we must open our arms in embrace and listen closely to their pleas. Be grateful for their presence and ask them to return. They will come again and again with gifts of foresight, introspect and achievement. Grab it all and open your heart to share with the world, all that you are and you have.
In these ways, our dreams become our mentors and cherished friends. Never fear them, do not forget them........For a man without dreams, is a man without hope.
Sweet sweet dreams
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