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What to Say in a Thinking of You Card

Updated on May 10, 2016

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Sometimes it is difficult to know exactly what to say on a Thinking of You card.
Sometimes it is difficult to know exactly what to say on a Thinking of You card. | Source

What to Write?

Thinking of You cards are often used when other types of greetings cards do not quite fit the occasion. We have Sympathy cards for when someone experiences a death of a loved one, and Get Well cards for illnesses or surgeries. There are times, however, when a person just needs to know that you care and are thinking of them.

Though many Thinking of You cards are used to acknowledge a sad or unpleasant circumstance such as divorce or job loss, they also can be used for happier times. You may want to send a friend one of these cards just to let them know why they are special.

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You can even send Thinking of You cards by email or by posting on Facebook. Hallmark charges $1 per month for unlimited access to their online greeting cards, and American Greetings offers a free trial for their service.

Types of Thinking of You Cards

When you shop for greeting cards, there usually is a small section for Thinking of You cards. Many will contain a poem or sentiment that you like. If so, you can add a short personal line under the message or leave a longer note on the left inside page of the card.

You may consider choosing a blank card or note, which can be purchased individually or as a boxed set. Similar to how you would write a thank you note, start your message with a greeting such as "Dear" and finish with an appropriate closing, for example, "Love, Mary" or "Take care, Bob." At the end of this article are samples of what to write for different scenarios.

When to Send One

In most cases, you will send a Thinking of You card to someone to give encouragement in a difficult situation or to just say you care. It is not a time to ramble on about your own problems in an attempt to make a connection.

It is fine to mention briefly how you relate to the problem, but your friend does not need to hear your whole story. For example, if you send a note to a woman who just had a miscarriage, it would be helpful to mention that you are familiar with the heartache (if you have experienced this, too). It is not appropriate for you to go on and on about your own experience in a note.

When you send this type of card, focus on the recipient and what words will soothe and encourage him. These are some times when a Thinking of You card would be called for:

  • Relationship problems - Whether it is a divorce or other type of break-up, your friend needs to be cheered up and to know that he is not alone.
  • Problem involving a child - Children can be a source of joy, but sometimes a source of pain. Whether someone's child has been ill or in trouble, the parent will be encouraged by your note.
  • Financial problems - People do not like to talk about money problems, but if you know someone lost a job or is struggling financially, send them a note saying you are praying for them, or have them in your thoughts. An invitation to dinner may be a nice gesture as well.
  • Problems with pregnancy - This is another delicate issue where you want to reach out to the family if there has been a miscarriage or fertility problems.
  • Feeling depressed - Your friend may just be feeling low and needs a pick-me-up.
  • Special friend - There are times when you just want to reach out to someone to let them know they are special and mean a lot to you. Sending a note for this reason will surely put a smile on her face.

Sample Messages

Handwritten Note

You can add a short personal message to a pre-printed Thinking of You card or write a longer message on a blank page or card.
You can add a short personal message to a pre-printed Thinking of You card or write a longer message on a blank page or card. | Source

If your greeting card already has a nice pre-printed sentiment, and you only want to add a short personal message, this list of sample lines may help:

  • Keep going strong and know I am behind you.
  • Know that we love you and are praying for you.
  • I'll call you later this week to talk. Hang in there!
  • I'll call you later this week to make lunch plans.
  • Just take life one day at a time. Things will get better.
  • You will make it through this, and I am here to help.
  • You are doing an amazing job getting through these hard times. Please let me help you out.

If you want to write a longer message on the card's left side or on a blank note, some sample writing ideas are below.

For Break-ups

Encourage your friend after a break-up with a thoughtful Thinking of You card.
Encourage your friend after a break-up with a thoughtful Thinking of You card.

For a Problem Involving a Child

Reach out to a friend who is having to make difficult decisions for her child.
Reach out to a friend who is having to make difficult decisions for her child.

For Financial Problems

Let your friend know that you are thinking of him during hard times and would like to help.
Let your friend know that you are thinking of him during hard times and would like to help.

For Fertility Problems

Comfort friends who have experienced a miscarriage or fertility problems.
Comfort friends who have experienced a miscarriage or fertility problems.

For a Depressed Friend

Acknowledge that your friend is feeling down and try to cheer her up with a note.
Acknowledge that your friend is feeling down and try to cheer her up with a note.

For a Special Friend

Send a Thinking of You card to someone just to tell her how awesome she is!
Send a Thinking of You card to someone just to tell her how awesome she is!

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      Glen Nunes 4 years ago from Cape Cod, Massachusetts

      This is a great topic. When someone you love is dealing with an issue, you want to be there for them, but sometimes you don't know what to say. You've given some really good advice for those situations. Voted up + awesome.

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      Sarah Johnson 4 years ago from Charleston, South Carolina

      Thanks, Doc. I think it is a good idea to keep a few Thinking of You cards around or a box of blank notes handy. I know I have been touched by receiving them, and have even kept a few to look back on.

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      melbelle 4 years ago from Southern United States

      Very good hub. I agree, sending a handwritten note is so thoughtful. I think we are losing the art of sending handwritten cards. I know, when I get one, it is so uplifting. This is very useful for those people who have a hard time writing. I know some people who say, they want to send a note to someone, but they look at the blank piece of paper and are just lost at what to say. The thing is, with a short note card, you don't have to write that much - and it means so much to others.

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      Sarah Johnson 4 years ago from Charleston, South Carolina

      I agree, melbelle. So many times, I have had it in my head to send someone a handwritten note, and then I get busy and the moment is gone. I am trying to do better with that by keeping the notes and stamps on hand.

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      India Arnold 4 years ago from Northern, California

      Nothing feels better when sifting through the mail then to discover a hand written card among the bills and junk! It is like finding a special uplifting gift of words hiding in this rubble of demands. Your examples of kind handwritten cards is the perfect accompaniment for approaching some sensitive subjects. I felt you did a great job with these. Your readers are going to really appreciate this hub, I know I do! Many votes up!

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      Teresa Coppens 4 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      Fantastic resource for writing 'Thinking of You notes. I am often at a loss for hoe to begin or how to navigate in words more sensitive subjects. This hub will make a handy reference!

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      Crystal Tatum 4 years ago from Georgia

      Personally, I'm a big fan of sending traditional cards and letters versus ecards. It's just more personal. Given that writing card messages is a skill most don't practice in this day and age, this is a very good topic. Voted up.

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